true freedom is found in disentangling, not disconnecting
You don't have to walk away to find peace with your family. you don't have to keep suffering, either.
Discover the process that is already bringing clarity, peace, and restoration to adult children who felt stuck thinking their only options were either distance or despair.
Sunday July 27th AT 6:30PM CDT / 7:30PM ET
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Healing doesn't require you to choose between silence and separation.
It requires disentangling—a sacred, guided process that restores your voice, your boundaries, and your sense of belonging... all without abandoning yourself or the people you love.
We call this process The Way of Unmeshment.
Hi, we're Shaelyn and Adrian.
After years of accompanying people through mentorship—and a lifetime navigating difficult family dynamics through the lens of faith ourselves—we’ve come to believe something radical:
Real love never asks you to abandon yourself.
Contrary to what culture, misguided Christianity, and even our own families sometimes teach, carrying burdens that aren’t ours doesn’t make us holy—it makes us lost—unsure of who we are and whose voice to follow.
If you're anything like us, you've felt this and you've tried everything:
+ Boundaries that don't stick and leave you feeling even worse.
+ Therapy that validates but doesn’t actually change anything.
+ Absorbing pain to avoid conflict... only to find yourself drowning in internal conflict, resentment and shame.
And despite all your striving, the ache remains:
Will I ever be free? Will I ever receive in return the love I'm asked to give?
Is there really a way to stay connected without feeling trapped?
You weren't designed to disappear inside your family to earn or prove your love.
Modern psychology calls it enmeshment.
Catholic teaching calls it a distortion of love and freedom.
Both point to the same truth: You are made in the image of God, not the image of family dysfunction.
Disentangling isn’t rebellion—it’s restoration.
By walking this path of healing and integration, you'll...
Name and heal the hidden wounds that keep you entangled.
Discern your true responsibilities—and lay down what isn’t yours.
Reclaim your identity as beloved, apart from old family roles.
Set boundaries without guilt, fear, or endless explanations.
Choose restoration or release with wisdom and grace.
Stop carrying family dysfunction as a false sense of loyalty.
Heal in a way that honors your faith and your emotional reality.
Walk forward in peace—with God, yourself, and your family.
Through years of trial and error, prayer and grace, and the study and practice of accompanying others along the journey, we've come to realize:
Healing doesn’t come from cutting people off or suffering in silence... that just hardens hearts and buries wounds.
Rather, it comes from disentangling — from reclaiming the truth of who we are and what God actually asks of us.
And now, we want to share that exact process with you.
You don’t have to choose between your faith, your family, or your freedom...
You don’t have to keep waiting for things to magically heal
or fear that choosing peace will mean losing the people you love.
There is a way forward. And you're not meant to walk it alone.