for adult children who find it
too hard to stay and too hard to leave
you love your parents,
but you no longer know how to be in the relationship... there is a way forward.
Join us for a faith-integrated workshop to understand why every conversation, boundary, or change in contact leaves you second-guessing yourself and to discover how to find solid ground without abandoning your faith, your family, or yourself.
Tuesday January 20th AT 12PM CST / 1PM ET
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January, 20th
12PM CST
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You are not going in circles because you have not thought about this enough.
You're going in circles because every option seems to threaten something important
your wellbeing, your faith, your family, or your sense of who you are...
To move forward, you need a way that can hold all of those goods together.
We call this The Way of Unmeshment.
Hi, we're Shae and Adrian.
After navigating difficult family relationships ourselves, and accompanying others through the same struggle, we have come to believe something that changes the whole conversation:
You cannot find peace when protecting yourself and loving your family feel like opposite choices.
One part of you says, “I cannot keep doing this.”
Another says, “But they are my parents. What if changing the relationship is wrong?”
When those voices pull against each other, every option can feel like a betrayal of something important. Protecting yourself can feel unloving. Remaining available can feel like abandoning yourself.
Eventually, it becomes difficult to trust your own judgment.
So you have probably tried approaching the relationship from every possible angle:
+ Telling the truth, then softening or taking it back when guilt sets in.
+ Setting a boundary, then second-guessing it the moment they become hurt, angry, or disappointed.
+ Pulling away when resentment builds, then moving closer again when grief or fear follows.
And despite all your effort, the painful question remains:
How am I supposed to be in this relationship without losing myself or becoming someone I do not want to be?
The answer is not another rule about whether to stay close, create distance, set a boundary, or try again. Because any one of these choices can still leave you with the same guilt, fear, and second-guessing.
The problem is not only what you do in the relationship.
It is that every reaction, from them or within you, can make you question your choices and start the entire process over again.
To stop going in circles, you need more than a different decision.
You need a different place from which to relate.
During this free workshop, you’ll discover how to...
Understand why you keep going in circles, even after years of trying, thinking and praying.
Recognize the loop that gives guilt, fear, or someone else’s reaction the final say on your choices.
Tell the truth about what happened without minimizing your pain or being consumed by anger.
Distinguish emotional discomfort from genuine moral responsibility.
Discern what is truly yours to carry and what was never your responsibility.
Hear your own voice beneath old family roles, obligations, and survival patterns.
Bring your faith and emotional reality into conversation instead of forcing them to compete.
Respond to the relationship with greater clarity and freedom.
Through years of personal work, clinical training, prayer, and accompanying others through painful family relationships, we’ve come to understand:
The way forward does not begin with finding the one relational choice that makes every difficult feeling disappear.
It begins with learning how to understand guilt, fear, grief, and anger without automatically allowing them, or another person’s reaction, to decide what your choices mean.
We call this path The Way of Unmeshment. It is not about forcing a permanent answer. It is about understanding who you are distinct from the relationship, so you can finally know how to be in it without losing yourself. It's about becoming unmeshed.
And now, we want to share that path with you.
You do not need to know what to do before you come.
You may still be in regular contact or you may already have stepped away.
You may be trying to set a boundary, survive one conversation, or understand why this relationship keeps pulling you out of yourself.
No matter where you find yourself, you do not need to force a permanent decision.
And you do not need another person to hand you a universal rule.
You need a path that helps you become grounded enough to hear your own voice, discern what is yours,
and choose how you want to participate in the relationship.
There is a way forward. And you do not have to find it alone.
RESERVE YOUR SPOT NOW!
Join us live and take the first step toward navigating your family relationships with greater clarity, compassion, and freedom without abandoning your faith or yourself.